How to Listen and to Be Heard
Alain Braconnier: psychologist, psychiatrist, former head of the Mental Health Association of Paris’s 13th arrondissement, consultant at Pitie-Salpêtrière University Hospital, emeritus professor at the Ecole des Psychologues Praticiens. He is the best-selling author of Mère et Fils (Mother & Son) and Les Filles et les Pères (Daughters & Fathers), as well as of Petit ou Grand Anxieux (How Anxiety-Ridden Are You?), Être parent aujourd’hui (Being a Parent Today), Optimiste (Optimistic) and L’Enfant optimiste (The Optimistic Child).
Listening is at the core of human relations. In our all-communication all-the-time era of virtual dialogue, it would do us good to get back to the benefits of listening. In order to feel fulfilled, happy and acknowledged, we must know how to listen to others in order to be heard.
In raising our children, in our romantic relationships, in professional contexts, lack of listening can explain a great number of quarrels, arguments and conflicts.
How can we raise our chances of being heard and understood? How should we choose the right person to talk to? How can we improve our own ability to be heard?
Being listened to depends on more than just choosing who to speak to, it also involves developing certain qualities. Listening – and being listened to – can in fact be learned. This book sheds light on listening’s stakes in human relations and proposes a practical method for getting ourselves heard and having our points of view taken into account.
This book by a specialist in listening is ideal for anyone who wants to be heard more as well as for all those who want to bring about change in those who don’t listen enough. At any age, improving listening contributes to feeling better about yourself and others. Let alone the fact that being heard is often therapeutic.
As a therapist, the author listened to, saw and heard a great number of children, teenagers and adults. His experience enables him to propose a new theory of listening, and of being heard and understood.